How to Have ‘The Talk’
No, this isn’t that awkward one from adolescence. It’s that much more important situation where someone you know and love is teetering on the brink with their alcoholism or drug addiction and you know the only way to keep them from inflicting the ultimate self-harm – death – is to intervene. It’s a terrible scenario for all involved, and if you have summoned the courage to have the talk with your loved one, it pays to go into the discussion armed with understanding, compassion and fortitude. With plenty of rehab facilities in California, all of which offer something for everyone, there is no reason why you or your loved one should continue to suffer the terrible consequences of substance abuse and in a lot of cases, it all starts with one person speaking up and showing their loving concern.
One of the best ways to gain understanding of your loved one’s addiction is to learn as much about it as possible. This will involve a time and research commitment, but it is well worth the effort, especially when it comes time to talk to the addict; if you can show them that you are aware of how they feel and that you aren’t blaming, shaming or guilting them, it can go a long way toward making an impact.
For resources, the internet is a powerful tool with tons of information, but you could also get in contact with a doctor, therapist or counselor to learn about the nature of addiction and the psychology of an addict. If you think your loved one is ready, research rehab facilities as well, so that when the time comes to talk, you can tell them that they have both options and support.
Write it Down
Sometimes committing things to paper is an eye opener for addicts. Write down the behaviors you’ve seen that concern you, as well as the negative effects of their addiction, like physical deterioration, loss of money and loss of friends or family. It would also be helpful to organize your thoughts and write down exactly what you want to say, that way if the discussion veers off course, you won’t become overly distracted. Be prepared, as well, for the addict’s denial tactics and the possibility that they will try to manipulate you. Read more…